The beautiful, long summer days are passing. Evenings are darker and the weather is getting colder. Winter is approaching. The winter months will see a rise in outbreaks of flu and colds plus, other related illnesses which come with diarrhea and vomiting.
Children are prone to catch whatever is going around, as they’re more vulnerable than adults. They’re not clued up about hygiene and healthy eating.
"Children play closely together, and they’re still learning hygiene," says Dr. Judy MacDonald, Calgary’s Medical Officer of Health. "They can easily spread germs from person to person." - Best Health Magazine
It’s up to you to protect them. Teach your child what they should do, to lower the risks of spreading infections.

Put the following measures in place to prevent infections from spreading
Flu and cold germs spread through touch. Or by breathing in small drops of mucus from someone sneezing or coughing, which produces respiratory droplets. The droplets can travel as far as three to six feet and land in your nose, mouth or eyes.

Holding hands with someone who has a cold or flu, or touching something they touched (like the railings on buses and trains) and then touching your mouth, nose or eyes will pass the virus to you. Carry antibacterial wipes or gel in your bag and clean your child’s hands, and yours, when you’re out in public.

Below is a list of some of the precautions you can adapt to protect yourself, baby or child from spreading germs, or picking up germs from others:

· If your baby or child has the flu, a cold, is vomiting, with a high temperature or diarrhea, keep them at home. Otherwise, they’ll spread the infection to other children.

Your child’s nursery isn't obliged to accept them if they’re sick. They have  to protect the other children. There is a section under the Terms and Condition’s Policy at Ivy League Nursery under ‘Sickness & Illness’ which states: “Any child who develops an infectious illness must be kept at home. For sickness such as vomiting, diarrhea, discharges from eyes or mouth, conjunctivitis, sore throat and other obvious rashes, there is a 48 hour exclusion period from nursery or until the child is well enough to return.”

In addition, the nursery works within the guidelines of the EYFS which points out their responsibilities. “The provider must promote the good health of children attending the setting. They must have a procedure, discussed with parents and/or carers, for responding to children who  are ill or infectious, take necessary steps to prevent the spread of infection, and take  appropriate action if children are ill.” - Statutory Framework For The Early Years (3.44)

· Tell your child to wash their hands often with soap and water. Frequent hand washing will get rid of viruses they pick up from touching. Plus, they should always wash their hands after using the bathroom. Use alcohol-free cleansing wipes to clean your baby’s hands regularly throughout the day. You should also wash your hands after wiping your child’s runny nose.

·  If you have a cold or flu and you breastfeed, use a tissue to cover your face when you sneeze or cough. Wash your hands with soap and water for at least 20 seconds, after using the tissue or after touching your face. Another option is to sneeze into your elbow.
·  Disinfect doorknobs, toys, work surfaces, table tops and remote controls by using antibacterial wipes or spray. You can make your own disinfectant by mixing 1/4 cup of bleach to one gallon of warm water

Exercise and a Healthy diet will help protect you and your child
If you provide food for your child at nursery, always include healthy
snacks. That is a recommendation of the EYFS. “Where children are provided
with meals, snacks and drinks, they must be healthy, balanced and nutritious.” Statutory Framework For The Early Years (3.47)

Exercise combined with a healthy diet, lots of sleep, water, fruit juice and warm drinks will boost your immune system, and help fight off colds and flus. Drinking fluids will stop dehydration. Encourage your child to eat healthy foods, and cut down on junk food.
There are lots of easy ways to exercise. Walking to the shops or nursery, if possible,
with your child, instead of driving is great for both of you. They can even ride
their scooter, tricycle or bike. Dancing together is fun and a fantastic workout. And
then there’s ice skating for the ultimate fun exercise. 

Check out these exercises you can do with your baby:

Let’s look at some of the delicious foods that will help your child stay healthy:

· Fruits containing Vitamin C are great for keeping sickness at bay. Be creative to tempt their taste buds. Have you heard of fruit kabobs with a creamy dip? It’s made up of papaya, strawberries and cantaloupe melon. For the dip, mix equal parts cream cheese and marshmallow fluff (you can buy this from most supermarkets).
 Also, give them fresh fruits daily, even in small portions. A handful of grapes, a small apple, a slice of melon, strawberries and a banana will do wonders for their health. 

· Dress up orange segments to make it yummy. Melt some dark chocolate. Peel the orange and dip the segments in the chocolate. Leave it to cool on a wax paper-lined cookie sheet. When the chocolate is hard, it's time for them to eat and enjoy. 

· Include lots of green leafy vegetables like spinach, broccoli, cabbage and kale with their meals. Or better still, let them choose the veggies they would like to eat.

· Peel some cucumbers and carrots and cut into thin sticks to make veggie dippers. You can get different varieties of cream dippers in the supermarkets. 

· Green tea is packed with antioxidant and is wonderful for fighting viruses that leads to colds and flu. It’s helped keep the viruses away in my household. Anytime we feel unwell, two to three cups a day always works. Green tea is an acquired taste. So, for your little ones, it’s best to brew it, then let it cool down and chill before giving it to them. Sweeten it with some honey for a nicer taste.

· Let’s not forget the good old-fashioned chicken soup. It’s truly nourishing. According to research, the traditional (home made) chicken soup contains vitamins and nutrients. The anti-inflammatory effect in the soup could ease symptoms of colds and flu.

Making simple changes to your lifestyle will help you and your household stay healthy this winter. If you are exercising regularly and you have a healthy diet, you’ll notice a big difference in your health.
Will you protect others by staying at home if you’re ill or keep your child at home?
Will you teach them about how germs spread through sneezing and coughing?

Is there anything else you do to stay healthy, that’s not on this list? Please share it in the comments below. Your feedback is always appreciated.

It happens to the best of us you know. Time is limited and you end up not doing the important things you should. One of those important things is communicating with your child.

But the “busyness” of life gets in the way…

Life these days is about multitasking. You take care of your baby or child, maybe you go to work or you’re a stay at home parent. You do the shopping, gardening, cooking, ironing, cleaning, the nursery runs, plus lots more during the day.

Sometimes it’s hard to find the time to communicate with your child.

It’s not because you don’t want to. There are just not enough hours in the day. So, they don’t get enough attention from you.

But communicating with your child is vital.

Don’t push them away like Nicola did to her son. “I used to tell my son, ‘not now’ or ‘go away’ when I was too tired to answer his questions, then I realised that I wasn’t helping him to learn.” ~ Listening to Children - NSPCC.

Did you know that it doesn’t have to be so hard? You can communicate with them while you’re doing your normal day-to-day activities. Or make time to devote to them so you can listen and talk to each other.

“Communication and language development involves giving children opportunities to experience a rich language environment; to develop their confidence and skills in expressing themselves; and to speak and listen in a range of situations.” ~ ~ EYFS Statutory Framework 2012 (PDF)

So, how do you make it a priority to communicate (I mean speak, listen, understand and pay attention) properly with them?

There are a number of ways you can incorporate communication in your everyday life.

1.  The use of communication and language
“Language for Communication – is about how children become communicators. Learning to listen and speak emerges out of non-verbal communication, which includes facial expression, eye contact, and hand gesture. These skills develop as children interact with others, listen to and use language, extend their vocabulary and experience stories, songs, poems and rhymes.” ~ Early Years Matter

The first 5 years are crucial for your child’s communication development. That’s when they learn to speak by listening and repeating. You are one of the most important people to help with the development of their language skills.

Be creative. Make communication easy and fun.

• Babies communicate by listening, smiling and moving their bodies to music and rhythm. They enjoy stories and respond to familiar sounds. Sing to your baby during bath times. Read a bedtime story as you settle them to sleep. Talk to them as you walk, while you’re pushing them in their buggy.  
  

• Children love nursery rhymes. Those catchy, upbeat songs helps them learn how to sing and form new words. 
  

• Read your child or toddler’s favourite books to them. Reading the same book lots of times will help develop their speech. They’ll naturally repeat the words after you. Repetition is good for learning. I read an ABC book (over and over again) to my 14 months old grandson. Now, every time he picks up the book he says, “Deeee and Eeeee.” Although he doesn't understand what the alphabet is, he’s learning how to sound words.
  

 “Snuggle together for quiet times with a book. Encourage your older baby to turn the pages and to point to what they see. Ask your older toddler how the characters might be feeling and wonder together what will happen next. Let your child choose the books. The more interest they have in the book, the more attentive and enjoyable your time together will be.

Reading with your child teaches more than literacy and language skills. They are learning that you value their interests and choices, and that you love and enjoy being close to them. Studies show that lifelong readers are those who, as children, simply found reading a pleasurable experience (what was read didn't seem to matter as much as how children felt about the activity).” ~

2.  Key words to use when speaking with your child
If English isn’t your first language, record lullabies, or nursery rhymes in your own language. Play it to your baby when they need to sleep or calm down. Also, use key (positive) words in your own language. Laying that foundation helps develop their English.

Children thrive on positive feedback. It makes them feel loved and secure. If you find yourself dishing out negative feedback often, try and think about the effect it’s having on them. Not only is it damaging, but they’ll also learn undesirable words and say it to others.

• Nodding, smiling and cuddling your baby, speaks a thousand words. When they start to babble, repeat their babbling back to them. Tell them often, “I love you.”
  

• Your toddler and young child need to hear your praise. Use words like, “Clever boy/girl, well done, wonderful, I’m so proud of you, thank you, please, you can do it and you’re the best, etc.” Give lots of hugs, pats on the back and smiles. 
  

• Starting this routine of positive speaking early in their life is setting a solid groundwork for their future. What you feed them with as they’re growing, is what they’ll produce when they’re older. Positivity produces positivity and negativity produces negativity. In other words, if you plant an apple tree, you’ll get apples. It won’t produce oranges. 
  

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.
If children live with encouragement they learn to be confident.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with honesty, they learn what truth is.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live to love and be loved.
(Anonymous)

3.  Understanding
“Understanding: children follow instructions involving several ideas or actions. They answer ‘how’ and ‘why’ questions about their experiences and in response to stories or events.” ~ EYFS Statutory Framework 2012 (PDF)

Children will ask a lot of ‘how’ and ‘why’ questions. That’s how they learn to communicate. By interacting with them, you’ll understand what they want or what they’re trying to say. And they’ll understand you.

• Use actions with words when you’re talking to your baby. For example, wave your hands when you’re saying, ‘bye, bye’ so they can connect the words with the action.
  

• Although your toddler understands when you speak, they can’t explain what they’re trying to say to you. Be patient, and look for clues. 
  

“A 28-month-old is at the park.  She is pointing urgently at something and saying to her grandfather, “Derl!  Derl!  Derl!”  He says, “I’m sorry, sweetie, I don’t understand.  Could you say it again?”   She continues to point, and repeats herself a number of times.  Finally, her grandfather says, “Oh, the squirrel.  Yes, I see him up there in the tree!”  This toddler is learning that her loved ones will “hang in there” and work hard to understand her attempts to communicate.” ~ www.zerotothree.org 

• If you’re teaching your child to wash their hands after a visit to the toilet, display a picture of someone washing their hands, to help them understand. And reinforce what you’re saying by telling them, ‘Wash your hands please.’
  

4.  Listening is more than just hearing
“Listening and attention: children listen attentively in a range of situations. They listen to stories, accurately anticipating key events and respond to what they hear with relevant comments, questions or actions. They give their attention to what others say and respond appropriately, while engaged in another activity.” ~ EYFS Statutory Framework 2012 (PDF)

Do you know it’s easy to hear, but harder to listen? Hearing is one of your 5 senses. Your ears pick up the vibrations of sounds as you hear. But, when you actively listen, you pay attention to what’s being said. And you’re able to respond appropriately.

You can help your child to be a good listener by really listening to them. Don’t switch off when they speak to you. Otherwise, you’re sending out a message that listening isn't important.

Show them what it’s like to be a good listener. Listening is a crucial part of their learning, at nursery, school, college, university and throughout their adult life.

A baby communicates mostly by crying. When you respond to their crying, you’re communicating with them. It reassures them that you understand they need something.

• Listen to their cooing, make eye contact and smile with them. Repeat words and phrases, so they’ll recognise and get used to different sounds. Talk to them throughout the day. It doesn't matter whether they understand you or not.

• Although your toddler will have a wide vocabulary, they’re not able to pronounce words properly. So, when they speak, don’t be tempted to correct their grammar. Respond by nodding and saying simple words of agreement. Don’t tap your feet and sigh at them. Be patient and wait for them to finish their sentences. 

•  If you have an older child, play listening games like, ‘Simon said…’ You can get the full instructions for playing the game by clicking this link: http://www.education.com/activity/article/simon/ 


5.  Mirror good habits by paying attention

“Early Learning Goal: Children listen attentively in a range of situations. They listen to stories, accurately anticipating key events and respond to what they hear with relevant comments, questions or actions. They give their attention to what others say and respond appropriately, while engaged in another activity.” ~ Development Matters in the Early Years Foundation Stage (PF)

Paying attention means more than just sitting with your child. It’s about listening, talking and responding to them. Giving them your undivided attention will reap benefits for the whole family. In addition, when you pay close attention, you’ll learn more about your child and the best way to raise them.

• Play games like "peekaboo" with your baby; take them out for walks and spend time just playing with them. 

• On the way home from nursery, ask your child about their day. Find out what they learnt, etc. Pay attention to what they say and give feedback. Also, tell them about your day. 

• Toddlers love chatting. Even though you might not understand what they’re saying, listen attentively to them. When carrying out household chores, talk about it. Tell your child what you’re doing. 
  

In conclusion…
Communication is a two way thing. It’s about speaking, listening, understanding and paying attention to your child without any distractions. 15 minutes out of your day to focus on them is well worth the effort. If you’re willing to take the time to develop those vital skills in them, you’ll end up with a confident child. Furthermore, you’re investing love in their future by showing you care about their development.

Over to you. We would love to hear your views…
Do you think it’s important to communicate with your child?
How do you communicate with them?
Can you add anything else you do, that’s not on this list?

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Let’s admit it. Your life would be chaotic without a regular routine.

Imagine this. The alarm goes off. You turn it off and roll over. After sleeping for another hour or two, you get out of bed. Then you stroll to work halfway through the day. You come home late, and cook dinner when the kids should be in bed. As for the housework, you keep putting it off till the house is messy.

So, what’s the solution? Having a daily routine will make your household organised.

A routine is a regular pattern of events that takes place daily. To get your child in that daily pattern, you should have a set mealtime, sleep time, bath time, wake-up time, play time and quality family time together.

A regular routine does wonders for your child. It sets them up for a healthy balanced lifestyle.

They look to you for security. That security comes when they have a set pattern as part of their day-to-day life. It makes them feel in control. There are other benefits too. They develop good habits, organisational skills and have less temper tantrums.

Are you aware that regular routines and learning complement each other? That’s why the Early Years Foundation Stage (EYFS) encourages routines as a standard part of your child’s life. According to the report, “The parents can help children by providing recognisable and predictable routines. These help children to predict and make connections in their experiences.” ~ Characteristics of Effective Learning (creating an thinking critically) Enabling Environments - (EYFS).

You also play an important role in the development of their emotional, personal and social skills. You can do this by, “providing familiar, predictable routines, including opportunities to help with appropriate tasks, e.g. dusting, setting tables or putting toys away.” ~ Personal, Social and Emotional Development (30-50 months) Enabling Environment (what adults could provide) - (EYFS).

Let’s look at how to develop some of the most important routines:

A sleep routine
A study carried out on more than 10,000 children by The University College London identified that irregular bedtimes have a negative effect on their health and behaviour.

“Children who do not have a regular bedtime are more likely to suffer behavioural problems, according to new research. Erratic bedtimes can cause a similar effect to jet lag and the longer youngsters go without regular bedtimes, the greater the impact on their behaviour, experts found. They believe going to bed at different times could disrupt natural body rhythms and cause sleep deprivation. In turn, this undermines the way the brain matures and the ability to regulate some behaviours.” ~ The Daily Mail.co.uk

The study also found that children (aged 3 to 5) who settled into a regular bedtime pattern showed an improvement in their behaviour.

Professor Yvonne Kelly, from UCL's department of epidemiology and public health stated, “We know that early child development has profound influences on health and well-being across the life course. It follows that disruptions to sleep, especially if they occur at key times in development, could have important lifelong impacts on health.”

If your child goes to bed late and has to get up early for nursery, they’ll be tired the next day. They’ll find it hard to concentrate at nursery. And they will probably be grouchy and whiny.

“Children are creatures of habit and very much depend on a routine to feel secure and function well. Kids fall apart when you change their sleep schedule. They need at least 12 hours.” ~ Bonnie Slade

Some older children don’t like to go to bed early. They’ll do all they can to stay up. For some reason, they think they’ll miss out by going to bed. Watching TV is a much more appealing activity at nights.

That’s why it’s best to start a sleep routine when they’re a few months old. Have a set time for them to go to bed each night. And stick to it. Read them a book in bed or tell them a nice story to get them settled.

When they do the same ritual night after night, it will eventually become a part of them. They’ll know what to expect. And in the end they’ll stop fussing so much. And you’ll be less stressed.

Bath time and teeth brushing routine
Does your child enjoy bath time? A lot of children resist this time. They try all the tricks they can, to avoid getting in the bath. The harder you try, the more stressed you get. So, what do you do? 

Make it fun for them. If you've got a baby or toddler, put colourful bath toys in the water. If you haven’t got any, be creative. What do you have in the kitchen that you can use? Something like a measuring jug to scoop up water will keep them amused.

Get them involved in the preparation process. Allow them to choose their pyjamas or nightdress. Let them decide which toys they want to play with. They can also get their towel ready for when they come out of the bath. Children love it when you include them in activities. It makes them feel important. They’ll look forward to bath time, if you make them a part of the routine.

Did you know you can start brushing your baby’s teeth as soon as they come through? Some babies cut their first tooth at 4 months old.

To clean their first teeth, wet a small piece of gauze. Squeeze out the excess water and wipe the plaque from their teeth and gums. When they develop more teeth, use a small, soft toothbrush with a couple of rows. Brush their teeth when they wake up in the morning. And at the end of the day before they go to bed. Your baby will get used to  this habit and it will become a part of their bath time routine.

A regular bath time and teeth brushing routine, is the start of their journey towards developing personal health hygiene.

Wake-up time routine
Some children are naturally early risers. Others will roll over and pull the covers over their heads because they want to stay in bed.

It’s important to start a morning routine with your child. You could create a chart of the morning activities. Write down the sequence of things they need to do after they wake up. And have a set time for waking them up.

If your child hasn’t started reading yet, use pictures instead of words. For example, a picture of a tube of toothpaste will mean ‘time to brush your teeth’. So, the plan could be, after waking up, brush your teeth, wash your face and hands (or have a bath if that’s what you prefer), get dressed, have breakfast and then travel to the nursery.

Reward them for cooperating. Give them a star to put on their chart. At the end of the week, buy them their favourite treat for being good by following the routine. It will put a smile on their face and motivate them to carry on.

Meal time routine
There’s a saying, ‘The family that eats together, stays together.’ Having meals around the table (with toddlers in their high chair) is a lovely bonding family time.

To make this routine run smoothly, let your child know that dinner will be ready 5 minutes before you serve the food. That will give them enough time to wash their hands. Also, encourage them to help with getting the utensils ready before they sit down.

As part of this routine, your older child can help with the cooking (a simple meal) once or twice a week. It’s best to stick to the same days. To make your toddler feel involved, give them a wooden spoon and an old  pot to play with.

Cooking will develop their learning skills. It will also help them to get used to cooking. But keep them away from the cooker, hot food, hot pots, hot water, sharp utensils and anything else that can hurt them.

Use this time for an opportunity to develop good nutritional habits. Introduce healthy food as part of their diet from an early age. Put vegetables on your plate and their’s as well. Make it look pretty by combining peas, sweet corn, carrots and cauliflower. These colours look attractive on a plate. Encourage them to try it. Even if it’s only a few bites.

By sticking to this routine daily, they’ll know when it’s dinner time.

Play time routine
This isn't about restricting your child to a particular time to play. It’s about you playing with them to help their learning development. During play time you can incorporate reading to your child, teaching them the alphabet and showing them how to count.

In an article, ‘What is a Play Routine?’ Kimberly Scanlon talks about the benefits. She said, “A play routine is a purposeful way of playing and interacting with a child that follows a simple sequence. It involves predictability, repetition, and of course, lots of fun, Many toddlers like knowing what to expect because it gives them a sense of comfort, security and control. When toddlers can anticipate what comes next, they are most likely to socially interact and communicate. Having a routine implies that there is some repetition. Also, repetition is not boring to toddlers. Have you ever noticed that your child likes to read the same book over and over again?” You can read the rest of the article here: www.mytoddlertalks.com

For young babies, playtime should be adapted to suit appropriate stages of their development, as quoted in the EYFS. “Engage in playful interactions that encourage young babies to respond to, or mimic, adults. Follow the baby’s lead by repeating vocalisations, mirroring movements and showing the baby that you are ‘listening’ fully. Notice when babies turn away, signalling their need for less stimulation.” ~ Development Matters in The Early years Foundation Stage

Having regular play times, will strengthen your relationship with your child.

Family time routine
It’s important to take time out to focus on your child and have fun. If you’re out at work all day, family time is when you can give them your full attention. Quality time spent together will make your relationships stronger.

Set a day or few hours  aside each week to treat yourselves. It could be a trip to a museum, adventure park, the cinema, eating out, bowling or a walk to the park. Staying at home is fun as well. Read a book together, watch a DVD, make popcorn, play a game or whatever.

Use this time to relax and let your hair down.  Reawaken your childhood. Laugh and enjoy yourself. Let your child see how much you love being with them. It’s essential that you make this a regular time to get together each week. Children grow fast. Cherish each moment you can with them.

Washing hands routine
Bacteria live in places like bathrooms. It’s important to show your child how to wash their hands after every visit to the toilet. Explain to them that bacteria is not nice. Encourage them to wash their hands with soap and water and dry them with a clean towel.

To make it fun for them and develop a routine, make a poster and put it in the bathroom where they can see it.

Here is an example poster below:

                                     1.  Turn on the tap.
                  2.  Put your hands under the tap to wet them.
              3.  Rub the soap over the front and back of your hands.
           4.  Put your hands under the tap and wash all the soap off.
                                     5.  Turn off the taps.
                         6.  Dry your hands with a towel.

Routines are for organising members of the family. Each person will know what to do, when they should do  it, how often and the order in which it should be done. However, routines shouldn’t be set in stone. Review them regularly to make sure they still suit your family. As your child grows, you might have to juggle the routines around. There will also be a time when they’ll be old enough to look after themselves. And take on more responsibilities. You also have to make allowances for major changes like a new baby, new job or moving house. 

Please read and think about the questions below. We would love to hear your answers.

·         Do you think having a regular routine can make a difference in your
        child’s behaviour?

·         Will it help them learn better at nursery?

·         Will it make your life less stressful?

·         Can you add anything else to this list?

Did you know that you’re the number one person in your child’s life? Apart from being their parents, you’re also their teacher. They learn a lot from you. They learn when you’re talking to them, when you’re playing with them and when you stick to regular routines with them. Another important stage of their learning takes place when you support what they’re learning at nursery. It’s known as partnership.

You may wonder what partnership means. “Partnership involves parents, families and practitioners working together to benefit children. Each recognises respects and values what the other does and says. Partnership involves responsibility on both sides.” Taken from The Early Childhood Curriculum Framework

Your child’s nursery has a responsibility to encourage you to reinforce what they’re being taught at nursery. By supporting that, you’re also showing your child that there’s a connection between nursery and home life. Therefore, there won’t be any conflicts or confusion for them. Because, you’ll be backing up what they’re learning and applying it to their everyday life.

Your child will benefit from this partnership. It will boost their confidence and have a positive impact on their development. Also, you’ll feel in control and your child will be more settled. Therefore, it will make family life relaxed and enjoyable.

You naturally have an interest in the growth and development of your child from birth. Your nursery also has a keen interest in their progress and development. Together you share a joint interest in the welfare of your child.

According to The Early Years Foundation Stage, “Close working between early years practitioners and parents is vital for the identification of children’s learning needs and to ensure a quick response to any area of particular difficulty. Parents and families are central to a child’s wellbeing and practitioners should support this important relationship by sharing information and offering support for extending learning in the home.”

The report also states that when parents and practitioners work together, it has a positive influence on the development and learning process of your child.

The case study below is taken from page 16 of ‘A Know How Guide’ (EYFS Framework)

First steps in building parental partnership 

“Jackson is 2 years and 3 months old. He began attending the Children’s Centre at the beginning of the term after his second birthday, as his family met the eligibility criteria for the extended free entitlement to early education at age two. His mother, Charlie, had Jackson shortly after leaving school. Charlie never seems very comfortable talking to the practitioners in the toddler room and prefers to hurry away as soon as possible. Jackson has settled in well, so his key person Ruth approaches Charlie to talk about the check and arrange a time to meet. Charlie looks visibly nervous and says that she would rather Jackson wasn’t assessed, as she doesn’t feel he can do that much yet and doesn’t want him to get a bad report while he is still so young.

Ruth chats with her setting manager, Liz, about how best to approach the check and meeting with Charlie and they agree that they first need to build the partnership with Charlie and her confidence in the setting. Ruth invites Charlie to come to collect Jackson slightly early the next day and watch him playing in the toddler room. She is reluctant, but agrees to come. The next day Charlie watches Jackson, through an internal window, as he explores a tray of dry sand with Ruth, rubbing it with his hands and drawing large circular shapes. She looks interested and mentions that he makes similar marks whenever he spills food on the table at home. Liz explains these marks are the first steps towards early writing and that these experiences, whether at home or at nursery, are very valuable for Jackson.  She encourages Charlie to bring in photographs of the marks he makes at home and loans the family a pack of mark-making materials.

Over the next couple of weeks Charlie shows Ruth some photographs of Jackson playing at home and brings in some of his mark-making which Ruth incorporates into Jackson’s Learning Journey. Charlie begins to open up to the nursery practitioners, staying for occasional chats at the beginning and end of sessions. She is much more receptive when Ruth raises the idea of the progress check and agrees to attend a meeting. Charlie is very pleased to hear that Ruth and Liz feel he is making good progress and that there are no areas of concern. She enjoys talking about some of the comments in his Learning Journey, commenting that he is just like that at home. ‟ At the meeting Ruth arranges to lend Charlie some books that Jackson has been enjoying at nursery and gives her some suggestions on how to share them with him at home. Charlie opens up and says that she was never very good at reading at school but really wants things to be better for her son. Ruth explains that some of the simple things she can do with Jackson at home, such as reading stories or drawing, will really help his progress later on at school. She encourages Charlie to talk as much as possible to the Children’s Centre staff, as it is by working together that they can achieve the best for Jackson.”

Ways of working in partnership with your child’s nursery

The benefits of working in partnership lay the foundation for your child to become an active learner, player or someone who enjoys exploring new things. It also develops their creative and critical thinking skills. 

A combination of observing, planning and assessment will stimulate your child’s curiosity and willingness to learn.

Mutual engagement between you and your child’s nursery will provide valuable information and improve learning in the following areas:

·  Observations

The nursery uses observations to understand your child’s interests, their achievements and actions. They also need you to provide observations about your child. The ongoing observations from both parties along with knowledge of your child will be used to determine learning priorities and support their learning.

·   Planning

Planning and guiding children’s activities are an important part of their learning journey. For this to be effective, you should think about the various ways children learn and mirror them at home.

3 Effective teaching and learning methods:

1.  Playing and exploring - children examine, check things out and have a shot at doing them.

2. Active learner - children focus on what they’re doing. If they run into problems they’ll keep on trying and they get enjoyment when they achieve.

3. Creating and thinking critically - Children have ideas of their own and come up with new ones. They make connections between ideas and plan a course of action for completing them.

As parents, you’re encouraged to take part in your child’s assessment procedures. It may be difficult for some of you. However, your child’s nursery will support you so you can develop a respectful relationship. Your child will benefit because they’ll feel more secure in an environment where trust and respect are mutually shared.

Three questions you can ask yourself to know whether you’re on track are:

•  Do I really know how much my child is learning when they’re at nursery?
• What interesting and fun things can I do with them to support their development and learning?
  
• What can I do to find out the role I should play to support my child’s learning at home?
  

By answering these questions you’ll know whether you’re working in partnership with your child’s nursery or not. If your child is happy, you’ll be happy and no doubt their nursery will also be happy. A good relationship with your childcare provider is essential for the well-being of your child.

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When you react to your child’s  negative behaviour in a positive way, it encourages them  to understand their behaviour. It will help them see how it affects you, themselves and other people in their lives. Working on strategies to promote positive behaviour  shouldn't be done alone. By involving other people, they can support what you’re doing. Otherwise,  your child could get confused if others are using different tactics to yours.

In addition, working in agreement with your child’s nursery, and using the same strategies at home will help with the development of your child.

Don’t let stress control you

If you react to negative behaviour in a negative way, it will have negative consequences.

“Why don’t you shut your mouth and do as you’re told. You stupid child,” yelled a mum to her three year old daughter. She grabbed the toddler and slapped her on the leg.

The child shouted, “Go away.” She angrily slapped her mum back.

That scenario happens often between mothers and their young children. When you’re stressed, it’s easy to lash out at your child. Especially when you’re frustrated and they won’t listen to you, but carry on being naughty.

However, it’s not just their tantrums that can push you over the edge.

·         Maybe you’re tired from constant sleepless nights.

·         Your child always cries and whines.

·         They scream at you when you try to discipline them.

·         Your little one is destroying the house, pulling everything down and grinding chocolate or biscuit crumbs into the carpet.

On top of that you may be having a bad day.

What do you do? How do you handle the stress without resorting to hitting or screaming at your child?

If you don’t take action towards encouraging positive behaviour in your child, it may very well have bad consequences in the future.

“There is evidence to suggest that disruptive behaviours which are apparent in early childhood tend to persist and may become more severe in later years (Campbell and Ewing, 1990; Moffit, 1993; Pierce et al, 1999). An early study of parental perceptions (Richman, Stevenson and Graham, 1982) suggested that 60% of children with behavioural problems at age 3 will still be experiencing problems at age 8.” ~ Quote taken from a report ‘Perceptions of Young Children’s Behaviour’.

It won’t be easy. But for the sake of your child’s well-being and your sanity, you must take steps to encourage a change of behaviour.

Below are some of the things you can do:

1.  Try to avoid yelling and smacking

Babies and toddlers cry when they’re tired, hungry, over-stimulated, bored or for other reasons. They can’t express themselves in words, so they communicate by crying, moaning or behaving badly. Unless you understand what is going on with them, you could read the signs wrongly. You get irritated and either scream at them or smack them. They’ll react by crying louder.

Instead of shouting, try to find out why they’re misbehaving. Deal with whatever it is that’s upsetting them.

Let them know that you don’t like their naughtiness. Be clear. You don’t want them to think you don’t like them. Explain why their bad behaviour isn't nice. That way, they’ll recognise when they’re behaving negatively. With your help they’ll learn how to manage it better.

Replace yelling and smacking with love and hugs. Tell your child you love them often. Always show unconditional love. It shouldn't be only when they’re behaving nicely. Love shouldn't be used as a type of bribery.

2.  Mirror good behaviour by setting good examples

You are the role model for your child. They will do what they see you do. And say what you say.

“Remember that the most powerful reward of all is a smile and kind word.” (Cowley 2011)

Set good examples by speaking to them in a calm way. Don’t speak over them. Let  them understand  that it’s polite to take turns to speak.  Actively listen to them  when they’re speaking.  Don’t cut them short by telling them you’re too busy. Make time to have meaningful conversations with them.  Interacting with your child will make them feel loved and special. 

Say please and thank you to them and encourage them to do the same. Use positive body language around them. Smile with them. If you walk around looking angry and moody, they’ll do the same. When they do something wrong, tell them why it’s wrong.

This guide from the NSPCC is packed with useful information to help you promote positive behaviour in your child. Download the booklet by clicking on the link here:  Encouraging Better Behaviour: A Practical Guide to Positive Parenting.

3.  Control your anger

Getting angry is never the answer. In fact, it can be fatal. A lot of parents have lost control and hit their child with shocking consequences. Many have died or ended up in hospital with serious injuries. Venting your anger and feeling sorry afterwards is not the right way to promote positive behaviour.

“ Misbehaving children can cause a parent to become stressed and angry. Remember, if you are stressed or angry then your child may copy your behaviour. Becoming angry is not an effective way of disciplining your child. If you feel yourself becoming angry, try some simple techniques like taking several deep breaths, counting to 10, or leaving the room. If you feel that you cannot control your anger, then get help. Talk to someone about your problem or ask your doctor about anger management classes.” _ NSPCC

If you suffer from anger problems, this guide might also help you. Here is the link to download the booklet: Keeping Your Cool.

4.  Focus on the good and give praise

If you always react and focus on bad behaviour, they’ll keep repeating it. Plus, if you punish their wrong doings and don’t praise them for being good, you’ll damage their self-esteem. Positive reinforcements encourage independence and self-confidence. If you focus too much on their naughty behaviour, you’re indirectly telling them that is what gets your attention.

Make a habit of telling them that they’re good. It will make them feel good about themselves.

Even if it’s hard to see the little good they do, try to find it and praise them. Also, praise them in front of their teachers, friends and other members of the family.

I found an interesting article from a mum who uses the ‘being good’ technique. She always tells her children they’re good. She tells them that others say they’re good. She also gives them examples. But she makes up a lot of the examples to get her point across.

She explained further by saying, “Now I do take this with me wherever I go with my three boys. I put my mom's ways to the test nearly every day. And it works. It works before we go into the grocery store. It works before we sit down at a restaurant. It works when I know my kids are getting cranky hungry or cranky tired. I continuously find myself setting expectations for them like this wherever we go. Now I finally figured out, too, that it is totally made up. I make up that the people at the restaurant have probably "heard what good boys you are," so I expect that they will sit nicely waiting for their dinner. Then when the waitresses are impressed with how my boys may politely ask for their dinner, I say, "See! I knew you'd ask so nicely." It works. I guess I turn my made-up stories turn into real stories by making the expectations turn into reality.”

5. Give rewards for being good

You don’t have to go over-board by buying expensive presents or taking them away on holiday. Reward your child with simple things without spoiling them.

Some things you can use for rewards are:

·         A new book.

·         A treat at McDonald's or somewhere else they like going for a meal.

·         Baking a cake or making biscuits together.

·         A day out to the zoo or museum.

·         A new toy.

Another approach is to set rules and boundaries. Keep the rules simple and speak in a language they understand.  Reward your child when you see an improvement in their behaviour. However, don’t be too focused on just rewarding them when they’re sticking to the rules. Make it a habit so they don’t think they’ll only get treats when they’re being good.

Promoting positive behaviour will help your child develop self-confidence, independence, good social skills and manage self-control. Growing is about learning and experimenting, so demonstrate love and patience while you help to mould their character positively, rather than negatively. They’ll thank you for it when they’re older.

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The KiddiKutter knife is suitable for them to use to cut a potato.


 Things you’ll need:
·   Blank cards
·  Christmas cookie cutters
·  Potato
·  KiddiKutter knife
·  Acrylic paint and paintbrushes

You will need to cut the potato in half and insert the cookie cutter into it. Go about 1cm deep. Then cut a 1cm slice into the potato. Afterwards, show your older child how to use the KiddiKutter knife to carefully cut around the cookie cutter. Then get them to remove the slice and the cookie cutter. They’ll be left with a lovely Christmas stamp, the shape of the cookie cutter.

                            Here is an example of a star stamp that’s been cut out of a potato:

Give your child the paintbrush and some paint in a plastic container. Show them how to cover the stamp with paint. Make sure they use the brush to cover it evenly all over. For a toddler, you might have to paint the stamp for them. It depends on how advanced they are.
Finally, let them stamp onto the blank cards. They can experiment with different colours, or mix colours together to get an unusual effect.

Marble Print Christmas Cards
This is a fun way for your child to use different skills and produce beautiful Christmas cards. You supply the resources and they can do the rest themselves. All you need to do is show them or explain to them how to do it.

Things you’ll need:

• Blank cards
• An A4 Sheet of paper
• Red and green tempera paint in a plastic cup (red & green paints are the traditional Christmas colours)
• Scissors
• A large box or plastic container
• Glue stick
• Masking tape

To make the Christmas cards, let your child cut out shapes like stars or triangles. Finally, they should stick the shapes onto the blank card using the glue stick.

These unique handmade Christmas cards can be given to their nursery teachers and family members. 

Baby’s First Finger Painting Picture
The first Christmas for your baby should be one you both remember. What better way to do that than to let them finger paint a picture.

Your baby’s work of art will also develop fine motor and writing skills. The EYFS Guidance states these are some of the “Ways in which children begin to develop fine motor skills, for example, the way they use their fingers.  Encourage children to handle and manipulate a variety of media and implements, for example finger-paint and brushes.”

This is a great chance for them to experiment with different colours and develop their imagination. Although you’ll be making the paint for your baby, they should be encouraged to do the finger painting by themselves.

“Encourage babies to make marks in paint or with thick crayons. Provide opportunities for children to sometimes use all their fingers or the whole hand, for example with finger-paints or cornflour, and sometimes use just one finger, for example when making patterns in damp sand or paint.” ~ The EYFS Guidance

Babies instinctively put everything in their mouths. Therefore, the paint they use has to be safe. The safest paint for babies are edible ones made from vegetables and fruits. This activity is suitable for babies from six months old.

Things you’ll need to make the paint:
·    Carrots for the orange paint
·   Broccoli for the green paint
·   Strawberries for the red paint
·   A food blender
·   Saucepan or steamer
·   Vegetable peeler
·   Baby’s high chair
·   Sheet of paper
Cut the carrots and broccoli and put in a steamer or saucepan, separately. Cook till they’re very soft. When cooked, put each in the blender and blend until the vegetables are smooth. You might need to add some water to get the vegetable to  form into a paste.
Add the strawberries to the blender with a small amount of water. Blend until smooth.
When the paint is ready, put some on your baby’s high chair. Encourage them to explore and have fun with the different colours. To make the picture, get a sheet of paper and put it on the high chair. Let your baby paint on it using their fingers. After they’ve finished, you’ll have their first painting ready to frame for a Christmas present. Or a keepsake to remember their first Christmas.

For toddlers and young children, use the method below to make the finger paints. Supply them with a sheet of paper. Let them be creative and come up with their own masterpiece.

        Things you need:
·         1 cup of corn flour
·       1 cup of cold water
·       3 cups of boiling water
·       Liquid food colouring
·       Sheet of paper
Add 1 cup of cold water to the corn flour and mix together in a bowl. Slowly add the boiled water to the mixture of corn flour and mix together. Transfer to a saucepan over low heat. Stir until the mixture is smooth like custard. Add some liquid food colouring to colour the paint. When the paint cools down, store them in clean jars ready for your child to have fun with. 

Another idea for an older child is to get them to decorate one or two photo frames. 
Buy inexpensive plain wooden photo frames. You can find these in a Pound shop. While you’re there, pick up some sparkling decorations. Or you can buy some from your local craft store. You also need a few different colours of non toxic paints and non-toxic glue. Remove the glass from the frame. Let your child paint the frame. Put  it on newspaper to protect your surface/table. Encourage them to be creative by painting it the way they want it to look. After the paint dries, show them how to decorate the frame using the glue to stick down the sparkling decorations. Finally, put a recent photo of them in it. This will make a beautiful present for their grandparents or other family members.

Lovely Christmas Tree Decorations
When you’re out walking, why not collect some pine cones together. There should be lots of them on the ground. Take some home and wash them.

Give your child some coloured glitter glue. The ones in tubes will be easier for them to use. They should use the glue to paint the pine cones with lots of pretty colours. Then leave them to dry.

Afterwards, get them to tie a piece of cotton or coloured string to make loops at the top of the cones.  It will put a smile on your child’s face to see their lovely work of art displayed on the Christmas tree. That will be their contribution of beautiful handmade decorations.

Click on this link to download some lovely blank Christmas tree decorations. Print them off on card. Get your child to use some crayons to colour them in. Next, they should  use a pair of safe scissors to cut them out. Then give them a hole puncher to make a hole at the top of each. Finally, let your child string cotton thread or coloured strings through the top, then tie a knot and hang them on the Christmas tree.

·         Ideas for Christmas presents for your child

There’s so much to choose from. If you’re working you probably don’t have much time to shop for presents. The Croydon Advertiser listed some places where you can buy affordable presents online.

·         Click on this link and check out the presents for toddlers.

·         This link is for the older child.

Use this period before Christmas to make your baby or child feel loved and appreciated. It’s a special season when all the family gets together to celebrate. So, don't forget to share with the family what you and your baby or child did together.